“You can talk with someone for years, every day, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.” (C. JoyBell C.)
I was once asked by a friend, “If I text him more than he does, does that mean he is not as interested in me?”
I consoled her at the time by saying she’s overthinking it and that things will be fine. Years went by and I realized that this question keeps getting asked by many people, across genders, and ages. The anxiety to know what the other person feels and thinks about us is a never-ending one. With communication becoming lightning-fast, we expect people to respond when the blue ticks show up.
Though I do not believe myself to be an expert, here’s what I have learned about (DMs) communication.
Firstly, let’s get this straight.
No, it does not necessarily mean that if someone is not responding to you (sepcifically on texts), that they’re not interested in you.
It could mean one or more of the following things:
- They’re not into texting and prefer to talk over a phone call or in-person
- They have a busy schedule and do not have time to respond to each text every now and then.
- They might be contemplating about what and how to respond to your text.
- They are wondering why you are texting so much and hoping that if they don’t reply you will ultimately stop (nobody likes a clingy partner). This, however, in no way means that they don’t care or care lesser than you do.
The best way to stop overthinking and over-analyzing this situation is to talk it out with them rather than conjuring up negative ideas and thoughts in your head.
Talk it out with them rather than conjuring up negative ideas and thoughts in your head.
Thank you for reading.