Bookish Witch

Speaking Skills by Dr. Vinay Bansal

Book blurb:

Yes, I understand that you already know how to speak and converse. After all, that is something you had been taught ever since you were a child. Starting from your first words to having a million words in your vocabulary, learning multiple languages, you have walked a long way. And yet, you are here, with this book in your hand, to relearn a skill so inherent in you. Or maybe, just to polish them up. Well, you are definitely not alone. At some point in time, everyone thinks that he/she needs to become a better orator, a better communicator, and sometimes, even link their very nature to the way they speak. If you have a mean tongue, you come off as a bad person; if you speak sweetly, you are a nice person, irrespective of your actual nature. I present to you this book with the hope that no matter what help you need, this book will be able to guide you with it.

I won’t be surprised if you question the choice of my title, but I promise you that it is very apt because Speaking might Kill. Humans are the only known species on the planet who can talk and communicate to all the other members of the species through multiple languages, gestures, and even silence. We learn how to speak at the mere age of 1, but we don’t know what to talk about until the very end. We mostly end up saying the wrong things at the wrong time, something that stays with us far longer than we would prefer. If we don’t rectify that habit, it only creates disputes and kills harmony, peace, and brotherhood. Be it with our spouse, friends, neighbours, or countries, speaking skills matter. Speaking without Skills will Kill – a lesson important enough to write a book on.

Before you begin, I would like to set a disclaimer that the objective of the fictional content of the book is not meant to be taken from a technical point of view; and is not written to be technically sound. It is a setting created to aid and connect the lessons of the book, with the hope that it also creates an interest in the minds of the readers.

Genre: Fiction/Inspirational

Pages: 40

Format: Kindle eBook

Price: 99 INR/$2.99

My Ratings: 4.5/5

SAMA is a new age AI robot being built to bridge the communication gaps between human beings. While making her, Dr. Bakshi teaches his IT intern Kritika, what kind of data and software to feed into SAMA to make the robot a success. In the process, he ends up teaching Kritika (and us as the readers) some of the best lessons about speaking and communication.

A book that teaches us the nuances of right communication.

What I liked about the book:
—> It teaches self help and life lessons via a fictional story.
—> We can also easily relate to the character of Kritika who is battling some personal life issues and how it affects her professional life.

Quotable quotes :
—> At some point in time, everyone thinks that he/she needs to become a better orator, a better communicator, and sometimes, even link their very nature to the way they speak.
—> If you have a mean tongue, you come off as a bad person; if you speak sweetly, you are a nice person, irrespective of your actual nature.
—> We learn how to speak at the mere age of 1, but we don’t know what to talk about until the very end. We mostly end up saying the wrong things at the wrong time, something that stays with us far longer than we would prefer.
—> It’s true that humans can not stop communication, but the problem is that they don’t know how to communicate properly either.
—>Humans tend to stay closer together in case of danger.
—> Without us speaking and sharing ideas the way we are meant to, there could only be one result – chaos.
—> No one understands others’ perspectives, and no one wants to understand others. Social media has given us the perfect mask to spew our unwarranted thoughts without caring for the feelings of others.
—> Humans are full of vices that are a result of our emotions.
—> Whenever you think of only ‘I’, you lose the very grounds of socialization.
—> Every emotion, even the ones we normally put in the ‘Don’ts’ category, is healthy for a while. But when we indulge in it more than we can handle, it becomes dangerous.
—> Our happiness and sadness are not always given to us by someone else but are rather an interpretation of our relationship with them.
—> Your happiness is not someone else’s responsibility. It’s your very own.
—>If we can maintain a permanent and stable relationship with ourselves, our strained relationship with others will no longer affect us. And even if it does, it won’t overpower us as it does now.
—> Once your relationship with self is strong, your relationship with others will strengthen.
—> If one is not happy with oneself, he will want others to fulfil his need for happiness and will surely return disappointed most of the time. Others are not in this world to take care of your happiness; they are here to take care of theirs.
—> Studies say that we tend to overthink in silence and find peace in chaos.
—> Everyone has something different they can teach us.
—> The best thing about communication is that we never stop doing it. Communication experts have said that we are always in conversation, whether it is with our own selves or with others through thoughts, gestures, or speech.
—> Words, once spoken, cannot be taken back; once written, they can be edited.
—> It’s advisable to speak about ourselves only when asked and when it is necessary to do so. When you are interested in others, others will be interested in you.
—> Everyone is entitled to their opinion, which is an influence of their lifestyle and upbringing.

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