People say marriages are made in heaven. And in India, this belief is ingrained in the concept of arranged marriages. But of course, one has to be cautious while choosing this route because who knows what the person might turn out into after marriage. Yes, arranged marriages can be successful even today but they shouldn’t turn to scenarios where the partners say to each other “But you never told me this before marriage!” or “But you promised things would change after marriage!” So here’s a list of reasons why nobody should decide to marry on the basis of just one meeting!
1. They will be at their best behavior
Of course they will be and so will you! It’s like a job interview (well almost).
2. You probably don’t know how they live
Have you been inside their house? How do they live? Do they keep the place tidy? Argh! So much to know.
3. He or she might not be completely truthful
Well, it’s an arranged marriage meeting! You can’t expect the person to talk about his or her past or some of the habits his or her family isn’t aware about (such as smoking and drinking).
4. You don’t get a chance to know or notice the small things
What kind of clothes does he or she like? Does he or she travel? What time do they wake up? These things can only be known over a certain period of knowing someone.
5. You don’t know what his or her family is like
Agreed that not all in-laws turn out to be nasty but one can’t know that for sure in just the first meeting.
6. Likes or dislikes cannot be known in just one meeting
What if one likes travelling and the other doesn’t? Imagine that! What if the movie choices don’t match?
7. Knowing, discussing, or disagreeing about future plans is not possible in the first meeting
What if the guy wants to stay with his family even after marriage? It is something not every girl would like. These dissimilarities lead to disagreements later on the marriage. So why not get to know them and discuss beforehand?
*as published on TopYaps